EmuEmi / Emi Jones Dr Phil Episode "MOM BEFORE PROM" dr phil show 2021

 

EmuEmi / Emi Jones Dr Phil Episode "MOM BEFORE PROM"

EmuEmi / Emi Jones Dr Phil Episode "MOM BEFORE PROM"

 

One of my good friends got pregnant at 15, had her son at 16. She worked 2 jobs, graduated hs, and put her son through college. He’s now 30, an engineer, and married. It CAN be done but man the road is hard.

 

 

 I was pregnant and single at 19 , I never went back home to my parents , I worked and raised my child , I went to college and bettered myself , bought a house , made good decisions most of the time. I wasnt perfect but my child is now 29 and going to do his masters , hes made me so proud , it can be done but it takes a lot of sacrifice , this girl is nowhere near mature enough , shes relying on her mum raising the baby and thats exactly what is going to happen here

 

I'm a birthMom. I was raised in an abusive home and my father was a rotten human being. He's dead now and he died still a rotten human being. The first time he called me a whore I was 8 years old. I didn't even know what a whore was, of course. He kept me away from boys and even grown men yet, somehow I ended up being molested by 8 different people. One was a female. He beat us all, my Mom too... unmercifully. My 2 brothers and 2 sisters didn't survive them. They've all been in or, currently are in jail. They've been in mental institutions and 3 of them are heroin addicts. My oldest brother is almost ok, I mean I guess. He survives his past with xanax and other things to keep him numb but at least a doctor is watching and my brother isn't mean like the rest. Me...I got pregnant at 17. Cliff, my father, pulled a gun on me and my sister had to jump on top of him to keep him from killing me. 3 weeks later we moved away. See, my parents were wealthy. And they were in church every time the doors were open. Cliff destroyed every church we ever attended but, we'd be at the one we were at for a long time. He was choir director, I was pianist starting at 12yrs old. I have a thing for piano. On the outside we looked perfect to people. One of our neighbors new. She lived close enough to hear the screams. And when the police were called, we were told they didn't get involved in domestic situations. I'm almost 54 now. This was a long time ago. When we moved I wasn't allowed out of the house. As in I actually couldn't step outside. One day a lady came to our house. She was an adoption facilitator. She handed me 120 files and told me to pick one because my parents were giving my baby away. See, I hid my pregnancy until I felt her kick. I was 5 1/2 months when I told my sister who then told my parents. I did it because I knew they'd make me have an abortion. If they could make it go away and keep their church from finding out, that exactly what would have happened. And, actually it was the first thing out of my mom's mouth and my sister told her it was too late for that. My boyfriend of 3 years had already ditched me and I didn't care. I had my baby and what I thought was going to be the first person to love me unconditionally. Wrong. Until 1998 in Tennessee, if you were under 18yrs old and totally dependant on your parents for anything and everything financial, your baby was in their custody until you turned 18. My daughter's Mom is married to a state senator. They actually had that law changed. Adoption can't be forced on you in Tennessee now. I had my daughter on December 1st 1984. The day my heart was ripped from my body and I wanted to die. I came home emory handed. Suffered through 2 more years of that house. I was finally able to go outside. I forgot to mention that when we moved I wasn't even allowed to sit on the porch. They didn't want our new neighbors to see me pregnant. I would sneak outside at night sometimes just to smell the earth. When I went to doctor's appointments I had to carry the trash out with me to hide my stomach until I got inside of our detached garage. I'm a landscape and wildlife photographer in the Smokies. Maybe that's why I spend so much time outside...huh...I just realized that while typing this. Anyway, I got out at 19 because I got married. I had 2 boys and left a 10 year abusive relationship. I was only in it for the babies anyway. It took me until I was almost 26, to finally have another baby. I thought I'd be cured from losing my daughter. Nope. Guess what? You can't replace one kid for another. I got remarried to the love of my life and had one more son at 33. I found Hannah 10 years later on May 27, 2010. After I had her we moved again in 1986. Her parents lived 3hours away from me before we moved and 3 months before we did, they moved too. Hannah's parents and my parents moved us 1.8 miles away from each other when she was just 1 1/2 years old. We know exactly how far it is. That's one of the first things we did together...we wanted to know the exact distance. I found her by making a facebook page called December 1, 1984 Looking for My Daughter. It's there still for anyone to see. It only took a week. Her aunt saw it and recognized Hannah's picture. I had about 3 pictures they'd given me of her that were taken at the hospital the day after she was born. Her parents got the same corny picture hospitals used to take of babies with the blue background. I always knew I would need help when I left home to keep me sane after the childhood I had and my therapist helped me through handling finding my now 25 year old kid. I didn't want to blow it. I love that man! Skip to 10 years later and my kids are 35, 28, 27, and 20. Hannah is married and yes, I was at the wedding. Her Mom was escorted in and seated of course but, I asked not to be. When she told me she was engaged we made a deal. I told her that her Mom had waited her whole life to do this and since Hannah is her only child she should let her. I told her she's waited all this time to outdo all her friend's daughter's weddings and to let her have fun. All that isn't my thing.. I'm not good at it. The end result was such a beautiful wedding and my daughter looked like walking art. When the person who married then announced them husband and wife they were walking down the isle, Hannah stopped at where I was sitting near the back and she hugged me lol....whew! I'm crying for the 3 millionth time over that..my boys are grown. Josh is a mail carrier, Justin is a computer programmer who's working on one of the presidential nominee's campaign and is running for office locally in 2 years, and Jack is in college on the honor roll and wants to be a history professor at UT Knoxville. Josh has 1 son, Eli...omg..I had no idea you love grandbabies like you love your own babies! And Hannah has LK and she's 3. She also has Javi who's 7. Josh has been raising Eli since he was only 14 months old. My daughter in law had Eli at 16. Both Javi and LK are adopted. My daughter married a very smart man who has 2 masters degrees and he's a very financially blessed man because he worked so hard for it. So, Hannah stays home and fosters kids. Most are temporary but my sweet granddaughter and Javi needed a place forever and boy did they end up in the right place. I never understood how Hannah's Mom could love her as much as I do and in the same way I do....and now I know. Eli, LK, and Javi have certainly taught me that. Hannah looks just like me...she cusses like me too. Genetics are odd lol. And now, having grown up and raised my family and finding my daughter, I don't wish her life away. I don't wish I had raised her in the abusive home I would have been bringing her home to. I don't wish for struggling financially and her paying for it by having less than her friends. That's what would have happened, I was 17. And I don't wish away her very comfortable life with parents who love her just as much as I do. It's all led to where we are now and I can't wish any of it away without erasing our present which is pretty damned good. Adoption is sometimes the answer.... and you won't find many birthMoms who will admit that. Hannah would have had the same Complex PTSD if she came home with me. Nobody in my parent's house left there without it and I don't wish it on anyone, especially my own kid. My story has a happy ending because I worked hard for it. I didn't choose drugs and jail like my siblings because I wanted to be a better parent and create the home I wish I'd had as a kid. And I did.

I think Dr. Phil didn't want to force the girl to give her baby away or have an abortion. He just wanted to show her the possible risks she could take if she keeps the baby because it seems to totally have no ideas about those. She seems to live in her own fantasy and be not ready to take responsibility for her decision. She doesn't even want to apply for a job. I believe that Dr. Phil didn't think that girls shouldn't be a teen mom but only tried to push her to see if she has determination for keeping her baby despite all those risks. I don't think Dr. Phil did anything wrong in this case.

tifani bradford il y a 1 jour

I was 16 & pregnant. My mom never helped with a dime with raising my daughter, neither did my mother in law. I was only a junior in high school, while I finished school my senior year (this was after I had her) my grandma watched her for 2 & 1/2 hours a day 3x a week and that’s all. My husband, father to both of my kids, is still around & is an amazing father. Now every situation doesn’t turn out as good as mine did, but not all grandparents raise their grandkids when they’re children become teen moms. I graduated, now I didn’t go to college (yet). I have plans on starting next fall.

 

James Joseph il y a 1 mois

Boyfriend is gone because he knows he's not ready to be a parent. He's showing more common sense than Emily. Emily is young, naive and not thinking more than fifteen minutes into the future at any given time. The mother is a moron. Stepdad and younger sister are right on target with their observations and opinions. There are loving, caring people lining up everywhere waiting to adopt!!!!

 

Ben Keller il y a 1 mois

I grew up in an adoptive family and I can state unequivocally that the tests people are put through are utter rubbish. Things improved when I got a job as a Merchant seaman (yes, I've heard all the jokes). That 4 years set me up for life and gave me the freedom I always desired.

Jordon Cramer il y a 1 jour

I just feel bad for the Mom in this situation. Kids have sex before their parents usually find out and then, like this, it's too late. We need more education in schools and households about what life really means. Most people will eventually grow up to raise a child in one way or another so why is it not a fundamental part of society's education for young women. I think she did want to get pregnant and clearly, as we see, she is given some hard reality checks. But, her parents are 100% gonna be financially responsible. I was 26 when I had my daughter and childcare was exactly what he says, basically more than I would make working so there was zero point. I decided I'd rather raise my child at home and educate her to the best of my ability. But again, like the other mother said, no one is ever ready. If we hadn't had our families to help us, we 100% would have failed. It takes a village is the most underrated statement, in my opinion. It truly does. And love above all is what will push you to make decisions that you know you have to make for your child's wellbeing. You do give up everything. Your whole life is about keeping another human alive every single day. With a roof over their heads and food on the table. It takes every bit of strength you'll ever possess in your life to raise a child. Physically but especially mentally. As she said, you don't exist anymore. You exist for them. That is the only thing that matters. It's terrible to see girls so young not have the chance to be free and experience life and college and prepare themselves for what they one day will decide they want. But a pregnancy throws all that out the window. Gone. Sometimes forever. But, not always... However, it's possible. So, if you have the strength to move mountains for your child and understand those responsibilities then you absolutely can figure out a way to do it. Mothers do it every day. We take it one day at a time but in all honesty, the fact is - if you can't take care of yourself yet, mentally and financially, then you certainly will fail at bringing another life into that world.