7:10 AM
MARYAM
On July 17, 2014, my sisters Sydney & Dani Wolferts ran away after we tried to take our dad to court for abuse. They were found on January 3, 2016. On March 17, 2016 the judge ordered for them to be sent back to Kansas. After our dad has refused and delayed many orders, we finally have trial set at the end of April 2018 to have the abuse petition heard.
https://www.facebook.com/WolfertsSistersJustice/
May 21, 2016
Update on Current Hearings
[Sorry in advance for the funny spacing.]
I am going to write a very brief summary of what took place during the May 4th & 5th phone hearings. There have been a lot of things happening over the past month & as soon as I prepare an update, it seems to be overtaken by a new order. I have attached the public audio files of the hearings, which can be found on Utah Family Law TV's YouTube channel. I highly recommend reviewing these audio files if you have ANY question of what went on in the hearings, however if you don't have time then please read the short summary below:
April 27, 2016
Utter, Eerie Silence
April 13, 2016
Life Since They Were Found
I posted the following in my personal blog in
a post titled "Life in General", and decided it would be
applicable/good for Sydney and Dani's supporters to read. I invite you
to follow my other blog if you so desire. Most of what I write here is
factual, including hard evidence and testimony of our father's abuse that has never been heard in court.
My other blog has been (and will continue to be) a place where I
collect things that I appreciate and value: family, faith, fitness,
lifestyle and inspiration. Sometimes I feel prompted or inclined to
write about my family's plight, and yesterday was one of those times:
To
tell you the truth, I stopped writing here because of some very harsh
judgments and internet bullying. It was getting so horrible that anytime
I posted something, I was ridiculed and jeered at by my dad and his
supporters. I was also simultaneously being physically stalked and
cyber-stalked by some of his supporters to the point where I hated going
outside because I knew someone was parked watching me and keeping tabs
on our cars. It was a difficult time, to say the least... but I'm back
and here to stay.
It's a lot of work to keep up on my sister's blog, Facebook page,
and also run my own social media platforms while working multiple jobs,
but I need to start focusing on my future. My future involves
advocating for children's voices in the legal system, continuing to
pursue a career in modeling and fitness, focusing on my husband and
family, building my art business, and so much more. And much of my
future starts here, with this blog. Today I'm writing about something
you all know about. Except this time, I'm writing completely from my
emotional aspect instead of mostly factual. I'm writing from a point of
view that is raw, exposed, and real.
I
don't know where to begin. Life has been insane, intense and incredible
all at once. In 2015, the Dr. Phil show aired, I started my teaching
and art business, married the love of my life, and took a few months off
to breathe. It seemed that there was nothing more I could do legally
except prepare and wait. I began to think that Sydney and Dani wouldn't
be coming back until they were eighteen. There were still a few people
set on stalking and accusing me (the Orem Police Dept. storming my
wedding, for example), but for the most part life began to feel more
normal than I'd ever expected it could.
The
third day of 2016 began very early and alarming, as my husband and I
awoke to a call at 3 A.M. informing us that my sisters and mom had been
found. A family member of someone they were staying with had made a call
to the police. They ended up being right here in a neighboring city,
Pleasant Grove. We sat outside the Orem Police Dept. where they were all
being held, after having been mocked by the detective on the case in a
very unprofessional and horrible way. He told me there was "no way" he
would allow me to see them because "I could have visited them whenever I
wanted to". He smirked at me when I told him DCFS needed to be
involved, and the girls should not be interrogated (and whatever else he
was doing) without an attorney or case worker present. So there we
were, sitting in our car for hours outside the building where my mom and
sisters were being detained. I called DCFS at about 5 A.M. to make sure
they were aware of the situation. The sun rose while we waited, while
my heart ached so bad wondering if they were O.K. and how they were
being treated. It was time to keep fighting for my sisters.
My
husband is Diabetic and we needed to go somewhere to grab food. As we
ate, we received a call from the Spanish Fork Prison. It was my mom. It
had been so long since I had heard her voice, I didn't recognize it at
first. Then the tears came flooding down my face as I realized it was
her. I cried in happiness and relief because she was back and alive. I
also cried because of the injustices she was suffering. She was in
prison, prison because
she chose to protect her daughters (I now know that she chose to meet
up with them after a month when they contacted her in August 2014).
Through the salty tears and stinging eyes, I heard her tell me that she
loved me and that we could visit her. I turned to my husband and said
in disbelief, "I get to see my mom. Today." I will never forget that
moment.
So
much happened in those first 24 hours. I still look back on it and
can't believe it's not a crazy dream. Since then, we were able to bail
my mom out and I was able to visit my sisters for the first time. They
were at Slate Canyon, a juvenile prison, for nearly 90 days. It took
nearly a month to set up our visitation, but we were able to see them
multiple times during their stay and I'm grateful for that. There is
much that happened between January and March, but it is painful to
discuss. My sisters and I rode on a roller coaster of hope followed by
crushing blows. Every time it seemed things were finally going
right, the judge would make an order to bypass their protection. For
example, on March 17th DCFS found abuse (for the second time) against
our father. On March 18th, after promising my sisters repeatedly to let
them speak to him in court, the judge simply wrote an order sending them
back to Kansas. Our dad placed them in a program that harms children
until they think and act a desired way (do some research on the Dorcy
Pruter program if you're interested.) Sydney and Dani have been missing
for over two weeks and in the hands of my dad and these people, and my
mom and I have been utterly crushed by it.
There
are many forms of trials. We all go through life dealing with and
learning from consequences for our own decisions, and some of us suffer
deeply due to other's decisions. My sisters and I have had to live
through immense amounts
of trials and pain due to someone else's decision. The thing that gets
us through the most is our faith in Jesus Christ and the love and faith
that our mother has instilled in us since we were very young. Sydney,
Dani and I have deep testimonies rooted in the gospel of Jesus Christ of
Latter-Day Saints. They are extremely spiritually, emotionally and
mentally mature for their ages, and I look up to them so much.
I am so grateful for each one of you. My last Instagram post really
pushed me to start blogging again, because I didn't realize how much
all of you looked forward to seeing my "deeper" side of life and the
things I am passionate about. Thank you for encouraging me! As I
continue forward, I am excited to partner and collaborate with some
wonderful people and reveal what the future holds.
xoxo
Brittany
April 4, 2016
My Dad Who Terrifies Us
This is the man that the judge went out of his way to send my sisters to without giving them or me a chance to testify about his abuse. This post contains mature material and I only advise adults 18 and older to continue. The following list contains things my dad has admitted to or been found by authorities to have done up to 2011. I wrote about my sisters and I in third person, in continuation with the direct quotes from therapists. I apologize for the length of this list. It's so long, yet there is so much more that could have been added. (Wouldn't it be nice if none of these applied instead of ALL of them applying to my dad.)
Brian Wolferts:
- Admitted in a polygraph to a "history of sexual contact with a child".
- Admitted in a polygraph to exposing himself to two young girls when he was 23 (and already married).
- Admitted to masturbating "years later" to thoughts of the older girl (age 11 or 12) as the younger girl (age 6 or 7).
- Was also seen by psychosexual therapist Dr. Ririe who stated "the nature of the potential risk to [Brian's] children being very well emphasized to all of the parties involved, the risk would be considered much lower for his daughters in this situation. Part of this will be as the result of the increased level of vigilance he and others will engage in as well as the fact that his daughters have been well educated and informed on how to potentially report and address any areas of discomfort and in fact have shown a willingness to do so..."
- Has never wanted his daughters to speak to any judge, filing multiple times to deny them testifying about his abuse.
- Was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder.
- Was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
- Was diagnosed with Personality Disorder NOS (dependent features).
- Took Zyprexa (a drug for bipolar disorder or schizophrenia) in 2003 as a "mood stabilizer" to try to deal with his sexual addiction.
- Had 3 years of personal therapy with Dr. Randy Hyde, who then recommended he start therapy with a psychosexual therapist Dr. Roby
- voluntarily did 18 months of sexual offender therapy with Dr. Roby because he knew he needed professional help (but did not complete it).
- He lied to the court that he had completed sexual reorientation therapy which Dr. Roby refuted.
- Said to DCFS in 2004 that he had a chemical imbalance and tried 8 different prescriptions to help his condition, saying he was on Paxil for a year at one point, but it seemed to stop working.
- Said in Nov 2002 he stopped taking medications altogether.
- Held 3 month old Sydney by the ankle then threw her across the room, causing Michelle to have to run across the room to catch her before she hit the ground.
- He told DCFS when asked about this incident that "he may have been playing with her or slightly throwing her in the air and catching her" (I include this because what person admits to throwing a 3 month old baby in the air?! This could actually kill a baby that young!)
- Told DCFS that he has difficulties with himself, emotional disturbances, and felt "undeserving of love".
- Admitted to DCFS that he punched and pushed Michelle.
- Admitted to DCFS that he threw Michelle when she was 7 months pregnant. He said he shoved her, causing her to fall.
- Told DCFS the physical violence that happened happened before Brittany was born. Which means he openly admitted to domestic violence.
- Completed an anger management course, which means he had trouble managing his anger.
- Was found by DCFS in 2005 to have abused Brittany by being violent toward Michelle in front of Brittany.
- His only defense against the Domestic Abuse allegations by Michelle to DCFS were that he didn't think Brittany actually saw him push Michelle down the stairs.
- Admitted to having several "agreed upon meetings" where a girl would show him her privates in the bushes outside his apartment when he was 5, and eventually he pulled down his pants and showed the girl his erection.
- Admitted to using a foam rubber simulated vagina at a friend's house at age 13.
- Admitted his "typical" sexual fantasy is "meeting a relative stranger (woman) and disrobing in front of her and having her become aroused at the sight of my body and penis and engaging in intercourse".
- Admitted to C.Y. Roby in 2003 to having had 5 actual affairs.
- Admitted to DCFS in 2004 to "having affairs with "7 or 8" other women" which went on for approximately 5 years.
- Admitted having 30-40 online affairs by 2003 (after he had been married to Michelle for 11 years already).
- Stated to Dr. Roby that he does have a sexual problem.
- Was fired from Enrich in 2000 for a sexual harassment allegation.
- Was unemployed for much of those years thereafter, while Michelle supported him fully by building her piano lessons business.
- Throughout their marriage he did not consistently hold a job.
- Called himself a "sex addict".
- Is considered a "sexual deviant" by Dr. C.Y. Roby.
- Has trouble differentiating between ages with regard to his arousal patterns.
- Tended to "underreport his deviant arousal throughout the evaluation [penile plethysmograph], indicating a tendency to minimize his pathology."
- Did not complete the recommended sexual reorientation therapy C.Y. Roby said he needed to complete in order for his daughters to be safe with him outside unsupervised visitation.
- "Appears to have a very strong system for excusing himself for these behaviors that he has done."
- Encouraged his daughters to cut off all ties with their mother.
- Shows a pattern of difficulty with interpersonal relationships stemming at least in part from feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.
- Was found by Dr. Roby likely to have trouble developing and maintaining long-term relationships.
- Was found to "appear to be somewhat hypersexualized."
- Showed a "tendency to take somewhat of a victim stance where he appears to say 'woe is me, I'm so bad'.
- Reported to Dr. Roby that he wasn't ever suicidal but that he has "felt at times that my family would be better off without me."
- Forced Sydney with celiac disease to eat gluten over the course of years.
- Had to be given multiple doctor notes to impress upon him the urgency of keeping Sydney gluten-free.
- Has cameras installed to monitor the perimeter of his home at all times in Utah and Kansas (Angie verified this on Dr. Phil).
- Has been unemployed much of his adult life, relying on his spouses to support him, but being highly critical of their efforts at the same time.
- Has engaged in protracted litigation tactics for years and years.
- Told DCFS that Michelle "almost broke his nose".
- Told Facebook and Dr. Phil that Michelle "broke his nose".
- In addition to the above list, on March 17th, 2016, DCFS found my dad to have been abusive to my sisters in his home!
In addition to the above list of things he did before, my dad has fought multiple times to keep my sisters and me from speaking in court about his abuse. Can there be any doubt why a man like the one described above by therapists and investigators might wish his victims (including my sisters and I) to be unable to reveal his abuse??
It is hard to come to terms with the fact that my dad is unworthy of my esteem, as I value family as the most important thing in this life. But I also know that if someone abuses you--regardless of their position in your life--they fail to earn your respect, honor, and trust. My dad is my abuser. He and his supporters continue to abuse me verbally and emotionally all over social media, and they don't care about the welfare of my sisters.
