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Dr Phil Feb 11 2019 ❀ My 12 Year Old Son Is Being Spanked
Dr Phil Feb 11 2019 ❀ My 12 Year Old Son Is Being Spanked
If you were spanked as a kid growing up, and see nothing wrong with
that; it doesn't mean that the Old School use of spanking is a valid and
effective punishment. I work with dogs, and have to explain this to a
lot of people who cling to approaches that have now been Scientifically
proven to be a bad option. The whole point of punishment, in theory,
at least, is to stop bad/unwanted/unacceptable behaviours.
Spanking is one form of what dog trainers/behaviourists term "Positive Punishment", which is when you do something TO the dog/child. If you know that rewarding good behaviour (treats, electronic devices, e.g.) and ignoring bad (putting the dog/kid outside of the room until s/he has had age appropriate time to cool down, e.g.) works in countless studies, as well as real life; then to continue to use PP is simply a self-rewarding (getting your frustration out) form of abuse. ("Negative Punishment", is when you take something AWAY, that the dog/child has/wants. Examples would be ignoring the dog/child (who deeply wants your attention, love and affection) until the behaviour ceases, which can be extremely trying for the handler/adult, or a thing of value, such as a delicious treat/cel phone. This is effective as a punishment, and it causes no physical/mental harm....OK, there will be some pouting, but hey, the minds will be churning. Oh, I would explain about how NP this changes neural pathways, and such, but we don't have time for that!) I think that if you can teach any being, without resorting to violence, especially a beloved animal or off-spring, why on Earth would you spank/hit/spray water/shock them? Our role as guardians, in my mind, is to be benevolent leaders, who guide them on their journey: You can celebrate and reward their good behaviour, and then take away what they crave, as appropriate, when they don't. With a dog who exhibits aggressive behaviour, which is usually a fear based reaction, the use of force, to show "Dominance" (another debunked myth, BTW), will actually escalate the situation. This results in injuries, and too often, the dog is killed/"put down", because he had some person trying to be "The Alpha". The dog loses, and worse, human ignorance often goes a long way to helping a "violent dog attack", usually on a defenceless child. This can also be applied to kids: Think about it. I had to stop the video for a few, as I immediately saw a child who was suffering from Mental Health issues. Considering his father, I'm not surprised! I do agree with the comment below ( Tania Flip ); that a lot of children are complete, spoiled and entitled brats: Just not this boy.
Dr Phil Feb 11 2019 ❀ My 12 Year Old Son Is Being Spanked
Spanking is one form of what dog trainers/behaviourists term "Positive Punishment", which is when you do something TO the dog/child. If you know that rewarding good behaviour (treats, electronic devices, e.g.) and ignoring bad (putting the dog/kid outside of the room until s/he has had age appropriate time to cool down, e.g.) works in countless studies, as well as real life; then to continue to use PP is simply a self-rewarding (getting your frustration out) form of abuse. ("Negative Punishment", is when you take something AWAY, that the dog/child has/wants. Examples would be ignoring the dog/child (who deeply wants your attention, love and affection) until the behaviour ceases, which can be extremely trying for the handler/adult, or a thing of value, such as a delicious treat/cel phone. This is effective as a punishment, and it causes no physical/mental harm....OK, there will be some pouting, but hey, the minds will be churning. Oh, I would explain about how NP this changes neural pathways, and such, but we don't have time for that!) I think that if you can teach any being, without resorting to violence, especially a beloved animal or off-spring, why on Earth would you spank/hit/spray water/shock them? Our role as guardians, in my mind, is to be benevolent leaders, who guide them on their journey: You can celebrate and reward their good behaviour, and then take away what they crave, as appropriate, when they don't. With a dog who exhibits aggressive behaviour, which is usually a fear based reaction, the use of force, to show "Dominance" (another debunked myth, BTW), will actually escalate the situation. This results in injuries, and too often, the dog is killed/"put down", because he had some person trying to be "The Alpha". The dog loses, and worse, human ignorance often goes a long way to helping a "violent dog attack", usually on a defenceless child. This can also be applied to kids: Think about it. I had to stop the video for a few, as I immediately saw a child who was suffering from Mental Health issues. Considering his father, I'm not surprised! I do agree with the comment below ( Tania Flip ); that a lot of children are complete, spoiled and entitled brats: Just not this boy.
Is it any wonder that the millennial generation in large part is worthless? Too many Dr Phil's have ruined them.
The brat does need a spanking.We were spanked as kids and turned out good compared to the not spanked disrespectful brats now a days Exorcism is nuts .Yes not possessed just a brat
The Dad needs his ass kicked until he begs for mercy. Fruck the stepmother! She needs to STFU and stay out of it! I'd beat the living hell out of her! Frucking a**hole bullies!
